Success is often scary.
There is no SUCCESS without change; there is no change without fear (or loss); and there is no loss without pain. Change requires making choices. It’s not enough to dream of changing. It’s not enough to desire change. In order for you to change, you will need to make a decision. You must choose to change. The battle starts in your mind, not in your behavior. The way you think determines the way you feel, and the way you feel determines the way you act. If you want to change the way you act, you start by changing the way you think. The way you think about success!
THREE things that say you’re ready for success:
- Ready for change – You desire a real change in your business and are willing to put forth the effort.
- Dedicated – Your business is unique, and you are open to exploring new ways of doing it.
- Open-mind – You are open to discovering approaches and even mindset shifts that you haven’t known before.
Some of you are stuck in the middle, and you’re just going through doing business because you haven’t let go of the old patterns, the old habits, and the old ways of thinking. The secret to a successful business, is to change you . The secret is to know and face the truth. You must know and face the truth about yourself, your idea’s about success, and your own thinking.
You must change the way you think about success, and that will help change the way you act!
Nothing changes until you know and face the truth, and make the choice to change… and believe you can do it NOW! That’s how to have success in your business!
We were all told when growing up, that we need to “Practice”
All of us growing up learned to practice to get good at something: sports, music, or any other disciplines.
But is that true for business owners too?
Feeling defeated in business and life pushes us further into our cycle of trying harder. You think to yourself, “I just need to try harder” or,” I need to keep practicing (like some professional athlete or an Olympian) becoming successful is difficult enough without this “Try harder!” mentality we force upon ourselves. It sucks us into a cycle of “I must do better,” “I ought to be spending more hours at work,” or “I should be more successful by now.”
Let me share with you one of my “aha” about this practice mentality!
My golf coach took me out onto the practice range one day after just hiring him to help me play better golf. He asked me to look out on the practice range and tell him what I saw. I said, “It looks like everybody is here today, and the range is full.” That seemed pretty obvious! That’s not what he saw through his eyes, and then, went and dropped this bomb on me. He said, “What I see is, 95% of these want to be golfers, practicing their mistakes.”
What he was trying to help me to see was that unless these “want to be golfers” learn the basic skills of the game, all of their “try harder” mentality of just more practice was hurting them. They were all just practicing their mistakes.
They like so many others in business and life have not been given the basic skills on “how to” know and do what the 5% are always practicing. For me my biggest “aha” came when I went from my try harder mentality, too practicing what the 5% know and do. Practice does not make perfect (or successful) but perfect practice will.
Have you learned to perfect what the 5% practice?
Feeling defeated pushes us further into our cycle of trying harder to measure up to God’s standards. Becoming like Jesus is difficult enough without this “Try harder!” mentality we force upon ourselves. It sucks us into a cycle of “I must do better,” “I ought to pray more,” and “I should be spiritually more mature by now.”
But can you see that this keeps us focused on ourselves and on the things we can’t do?
Paul, ever the exhort-er, says we’re to push toward the ideal, but these standards were never meant as imperative “ought-to” statements demanding immediate perfection from us. Perhaps more than any one of us, Paul understands our desperate need for God’s grace.
God wants us focused on the things He can do through us.
Our objective is to make every effort to mature into believers who think just like Jesus. We may slip, we may fail horribly, but we press on to take hold of the abundant life. Make sure today that you check your focus on what He can do through you, it will be enough and you wont have to “try harder”!
Surrendering your life is not a foolish emotional impulse but a rational, intelligent act, the most responsible and sensible thing you can do with your life. Your wisest moments will be those when you say yes to God: “So we make it our goal to please him …” (2 Corinthians 5:9 NIV).
Everybody surrenders to something or someone in life. If not to God, you’ll surrender to popular opinion, to money, to resentment or fear, or to your own pride, lust, and ego.
So give it all to God: your past regrets; your present problems; your future ambitions; your fears, dreams, weaknesses, habits, hurts, and hang-ups. Don’t be afraid; nothing under his control can ever be out of control.